Bust for round 1. When my period started showing up, I found myself crying at almost every still moment. I'd sit in a chair, and tears would be streaming silently down my cheeks in a few seconds. They were welling up from a place I didn't realize they were even hiding. 3 or 4 days of that, mostly at night after I put the bear to sleep. I cried alone, and often up until it was time for me to go to sleep. This drained me considerably.
So when the app that tracks my ovulation gave me a heads up that I was going to ovulate soon, I was back to testing urine midday, in whatever bathroom I happened to be near at the time. I got my first peak notification Monday the 26th, and had my second shot at 7:30am Tuesday the 27th. Weirdly, I ended up with an awful and hateful headache that same day, and spent most of the day in bed, resting, with a heating pad at my shoulders.
Almost oppositely compared to my last IUI shot, I haven't spent nearly the same amount of time obsessing about what minute symptom my body might be experiencing, might or might not be related to conception. Oooh, a gurgling in my lower abdomen! This must be a good sign! None of that. I am, however, trying desperately to compare it with my first pregnancy and remember what was special about it that would have given me clues as to being knocked up. The funny thing is; there were no major prior signs that clued me in. My last period that year was on Cinco De Mayo, and on Monday June 10th, I happened to look at my calendar and realized that it had been 35 days since my uterus had reenacted the final scene in Carrie.
About a week before this, I had astutely noted that none of my typical pre-menstrual symptoms were present, and had peed on a stick. The pee test was an expired test, and there was a faint second line, which I discounted as being faulty and literally thought nothing of it beyond that. Of course, that Monday the 10th of June, I came straight home and took another pregnancy test (with a close friend on the phone, who had been pregnant-by-surprise with all of her three children) who educated me that a faint line is still a line, and I was pregnant.
While my first pregnancy was completely by chance, this one will be completely planned and anticipated. With breath that is bated, even. At $450 per round; breath being bated isn't even really the only thing going on for me, either. There's anxiousness, fear, apprehension, excitement. More fear.
It's ridiculous to think this way; but most nights when I lay down to tuck Bear in, I think to myself "How could I possibly love another child as much as I love this one? Will I just have to dive into this venture knowing that I'll always love Bear more? Is that even possible? HOW is that possible? Is my heart able to contain that much love?"
Truly, I love my firstborn with a passion and fervor that I have never realized I was capable of. Though my conception and pregnancy were entered without planning and there was admittedly a great deal of hesitation on my part (mostly because I was such a complete fuck up at that time in my life, and I was embarrassed that I didn't have more to give a baby at that time), by the time I heard his first little heartbeat, I was no longer finding myself caught in terror and sadness. It became awe and interest. When I first felt Bear's little flutter inside me at 4 months, I was already wrapping layers and layers upon my heart, and his, in love.
As he grew, so did the connection to him and the adoration I felt. I would lay on my side at night and wrap my forearm and hand around the lowest part of my belly - where I was sure he was lying, and I held him while he was still there. I grew used to loving him from there so quickly.
There is so much love that is part of mothering, and childbirth and pregnancy. I, of many of the people I've known, uncannily loved being pregnant. I didn't mind my belly, swelling legs, losing sight of my crotch. Weird hair that appeared, strange new bodily noises or processes. I didn't care, and I laughed it all away. I rarely complained and often remained beaming madly at the undertaking I was on.
So, here I am, another few weeks to wait. To try not to fret, to take it easy and light. A feat of it's own that is much harder for me to accomplish than one would imagine. My often overly-active energy allows me to get the shit done that needs doing. But, imposed relaxation is required and healthy.
But still I wait. Hoping. Still fearing. But mostly, just hoping.